That's the feeling I'm starting to get from this site. I lived in Amsterdam for 5 years which is a fairly hedonistic place.. this site looked like it may offer a link for me to carry on what was a pretty good life style.. you tend to have a few friends with benefits.. or fuck buddies is a more common term in holland.. was hoping to meet similar minded people on here.. i know i'm not brad pitt.. but i know I'm way better than average looking.. smart, worldly and laid back.. so if any-one can give me a pointer to as why I am failing to establish contact with any like minded girls, couples or groups.. I would love to know.. for I am a loss..