Profile Help

Okay after looking at many profiles I know mine is in some sad need of help. I know pics help but we are from a very small community so we really want to keep things discreet. User names are a bit harder to figure out who you are but with a pic up there is no doubt who it is. We wouldn't mind sharing pics with people who are interested in us. Should I add that info? Yes I am new to this site but not new at the attempt to find someone. We are being patient just want to help things go in the right direction as much as possible. I am really enjoying this sites forums because I feel like you get a lot of help for newbies. Is this the only site most of you are on? I am willing to sign up on as many sites at it takes but would love some feedback on what are some of the better ones and which ones are a waste of time.