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How about allowing us to give feedback on time wasters or genuine couples that we meet? I find it so frustrating when people waste my time & would love to give some very good img src="imagesadultemoticons022.gif" or bad img src="imagesadultemoticons017.gif" feedback on some couples that we have met. This would allow us to judge who are in here just for kicks and who are time wasters.img src="imagesadultemoticons020.gif"

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Couldn't agree more but I suppose the system could be abused

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Chaz... doubt it as it seems to work well on another site. Me, on the other hand would love to let other genuine couples know about some of the couples we met and some that we still meet. I think it is important for other to know who they can expect to have some hot and genuine fun with and those that are really not worth it. We have had many contacting us and in the end they just seem to dissapeer when you want to take it further. Real waste of time. They are only in here to see who they can con on giving them some tintilating fun but in the end amount to nothing.
leesax

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Hi
Have to say it would be good to see the feedback so you know who not to contact. We've sent loads of emails out and never got 1 reply not even a thanks but no thanks! so not sure whether they are timewasters or theres something wrong with us!!
Gotta be one or the other I guess!!

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Hi cpl4uessex interesting what you have to say does the other site just post comments good or bad? Or I suppose a star rating system good be introduced. I am sure that some people make contact with no intention of meeting and when it comes to it they probably get their thrill by thinking 'they could have done if they wanted' . Go and read a top shelf mag I say!!!!

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Also......nothing wrong with you leesax in my opinion anyway!!!! Worse is when you get a reply send a friendly reply back normally same day and then complete silence!!!
leesax

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Thanx Chaz!

Yep I think that you may be right. Its a shame though coz genuine people like ourselves then get disheartened!

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Hi leesax thanks for response - I know what you mean - tell me about it!!!!! I think you have to just keep at it and you can meet some really nice genuine people eventually like me !!!!! (very modest of course lol) Hope it all goes well for you.

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Hi leesax & Chaz

You both made me smile and believe me Leesax there is nothing wrong with you or Chaz. Unfortunately we are too old for you in comparison if not we would have contacted you ourselves. LOL

Chaz, yes they have posted positive and negative comments but as you know we are not allowed to give the name of other sites on here. Needless to say, we have had some good couples through the 2 sites and the 3rd one still has to prove itself. But we have had some bad ones too img src="imagesadultemoticons017.gif" img src="imagesadultemoticons010.gif" (am not saying we are perfect for everyone either img src="imagesadultemoticons021.gif" though most do want to take it further and meet us again img src="imagesadultemoticons014.gif" img src="imagesadultemoticons005.gif" guess I am the one being fussy) and just feel that it would be the right thing to warn other couples on time wasters. Makes life so much easier img src="imagesadultemoticons030.gif" .

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Chaz

I am sure that you can find what you are looking in here.... some females are just shy or afraid of a guy on his own and most couples want another couple instead of single males, so that they can feel more comfortable with the sittuation.

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Hi cpl4uessex - very nice replies made me smile as well!!! The shame is that we are all 'singing off the sme hymn sheet' so to speak, but all different ages..............might be interesting!!!!
luck699

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hi i have just read your replys as a single guy it is very hard just to get someone even to say sorry no thank you but all the ones i have e-mailed have had males as well as couples and females so what else is thereimg src="imagesadultemoticons017.gif"

leesax

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Hi Chaz & cpl4uessex thanks for your replies!

Guess we will all just have to keep going, someone will have to reply at some point!!


Luck - I have to say we always send a thanks but no thanks to any males that contact us, you only have to press one button so don't understand why others can't do the same!

Good luck, hope you all find what you are looking for!img src="imagesadultemoticons005.gif"

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There is a system within this site (theadulthub) which is the "Genuine Swinger" tag. It is available to all members who have met and (in theory) played with others who are already tagged as "genuine". I say in theory because it may be that a party host or guest at a party who is "genuine" may chose to tag others who were at the same party with whom they didn't play (for one reason or another) but who they know to have been involved in action etc. and behaved in all ways within the norms.

I don't know if David would have such a "feedback" section on his site, I know we would not on ours and I would be horrified if theadulthub (the ads and the forums you are seeing at the moment) included it. The additional admin it would cause would be absolutely unworkable. Every post would have to be checked before going on display, there would have to be a right of reply - at what point does "feedback" become a slanging match?

Think......... Couple 1 meet Couple 2 but because they did not actually gel with Couiple 2 once they got face to face, or felt that the one of Couple 2 suffered from "personal problems" or even felt that the wife was "under pressure" as happens so didn't want to go further! Couple 1 take it as a knock at them so leave feedback that they travelled 100 miles and met for a drink and Couple 2 didn't play and are therefore timewasters. How do Couple 2 defend that - leave counter feedback that the male of Couple 1 needed to have a bath before he attended the meeting? How do the admin on the site make sure it is all true - go and check out if the guy does suffer from BO? If we didn't and we allowed the posts then we are all open to legal action, costs etc.

Sorry, but negative feedback cannot be policed, monitored etc and remain 100% effective without leaving theadulthub and the individual site admins open to all kinds of problems and comebacks.

You all need to use the two tools available to you which are there to "tag" others as genuine - ie positive feedback. There is the "genuine" tag as already said and also the "Friends" network where by displaying other "friends" in your network a member does (in effect) display a reference - there is nothing to stop anyone contacting a "friend" of a member they are in contact and saying " Hi - can you confirm that this member is genuine etc"

I know that the new members will then say "But how can I prove I am genuine I have only just joined and not met anyone yet" - well all we can say is that is the same as anything in life not just the swinging scene. You get accepted into a new hockey club, you prove yourself in a couple of trial sessions, they pick you for a game - are you going to turn up? Will you be on time? Will you turn up sober? Will you cry off at the last moment and not let anyone know? You need to prove yourslef and become trusted.

Everything you do in life you have to establish trust and when new to the scene it is the same - persevere, make that first contact, agree to become "friends" and things will start to happen.

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Hi leesax thanks for your message and good luck to you as well keep me posted to how you are getting on either through forum or site mail system take care and have fun!img src="imagesadultemoticons030.gif"

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hi c4fadmin

I take your point to some extend but one does not need to slag off a couple single you were unhappy with. We have always made sure that they know before hand that we do not swing on the 1st meet, unless they are really exceptional, etc. and that is something that couples or singles need to agree before hand. So, ground rules have been previously discussed. But we could give feedback on couples singles that have been great fun and are really genuine and may be of great interest to others in meeting them.

Short and sweet and no need for too much info. On the other hand we have had couples that have said they looked or were a certain way, or scary or whatever, as David has said on the chat site of etiquete for swingers. This is nothing new but it would be nice to let people know that so and so did not turn up or that they were rude etc. without slagging them but letting others know to be careful. You do not need to slag people off to let others know that their time could be wasted. May a question of

Did you get to meet? Yes or No
Were they what they said on their advert? Yes or no
On a scale from 1 to 5 what would you rate the outcome of the meet?
Would you meet like to meet again? Yes or No

Along those line with maybe alowing one to add a few works.

I doubt very much you would be sued over anything along those lines and couples would be free to judge for themselves if they wish to meet that specific person couple.

Luck, we always give a reply back and David's No thanks works great.
Sometimes it is not a reflection on anyone but just that they are not suitable for what you are looking for. So, keep trying.... we too had many that never bothered to get back to us. Their loss I say!!!!
luck699

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its not the no thank you thats the problem its the not bothering to reply like you said its one button i have even replyed to a no thank you to say thank you for your reply img src="imagesadultemoticons009.gif"

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Any feedback system like this is open to abuse and would not work. Who gets to give feedback, and how is that controlled? Supposing there is a very good reason for someone not turning up? Supposing you met someone and they didn't like your politics, for example, and decided to give you negative feedback?

The only thing I could suggest would be the "testimonial" system that another swingers site uses, which allows you to write something for the people you have met, and they get to decide whether it goes on their profile or not. But even that is open to abuse, as some people seem to be in the habit of writing glowing testimonials for people they've had no contact with. Which kind of defeats the whole object.

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Cool4catz.... I tend not to agree with you. Doubt very much that abuse would come out of it. Why are you afraid of something or someone saying that they have not enjoyed your company? We are swingers because we hope to find honest enough people out there that are horny and up for fun like us, not to be there for picture collectors, people who do not answer or even turn up to a meet. Or for abusive people. Those are the ones that unfortunately give others a bad name and make one weary and not as trusting next time.

We have been lucky in having met some great people and would love to be able to let other people know what great people they are. Ok had one or 2 bad ones too. The thing is that there are some genuine people out there looking for some great sex and friends or just good sex and are being not looked at. Some because maybe they are not sure what to say in their advert or the picture is not flatering, but we have met some great people. Abuse will only come from those that are not genuine.

You say about maybe a genuine reason for not turning up. How about a call even from a payphone.... how about letting people know that you cannot make it or have got lost. AND how about personal hygine? Come on.... you are meeting a new person, at least have a bath and dress clean and decent. That is all we ask....... There are other issues but not on here....

c4fadmin you say we can tag in the chat room.... tried but have no idea how to do that and cannot see it either. Besides you only allow one tag (so I have been told though have not seen it) and that is a shame.

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Cpl4uessex
On your initial post, we do agree in principal with the general concept BUT any system that gives an individualcouple the chance to give a negative feedback on another individual would have to be policedmonitored and there would need to be a right of reply and that is where the slagging match would start! It is not just the laws in the UK but this ads system does cover worldwide including the US where litigation could render theadult hub and individual websites liable to litigation and the costs involved.

As you say, you do not (USUALLY) swing on first meet - others do. So much can be said in e-mails but the crunch will come face to face and all those things that were not said (especially by those more in-experienced) COULD lead to a bitter taste in the mouth of one member or another. This is turn could lead to the negative feedback that is unjustified and possibly, downright lies.

Even the outright questions you suggest as feedback are subject to an individual interpretation - in your case, you do not swing on the first meet unless the other party are exceptional and you felt they are not but you feel the outcome generally was a 5 and you would like to meet again. The other couple on their trip home discuss the meet and feel that they were exceptional and were upset that they got the "brush off" that night although you said that you would like to meet again - they feel their evening was wasted so they don't want to bother with another meet. You get home and go onto the PC and say that the meet was a 5 and you want to meet again. They get home and record a 0 and would not want to meet again. What or where is the truth? Admin then feel they have to remove the negative feedback because of the "few words" added, either for legal reasons on even just because the people concerned object - what is the point of the system when anything heavy has to be removed.

Just to make it clear, it is not David that has the "No thanks" button - it is something that is part of the ads system, theadulthub, and applies to all the sites that hub together here.

On your last post, it is not possible to tag within the chat room, but you tag the profile of the person. That is then as the profile is viewed when in the chat room.

luck699
Agree totally - it take a second to hit the no thanks button - the reason it was introduced was to make it easy to be polite

cool4catz
You are so right - the testomonial system is the only way, despite it's short comings. And that is already part of this site, at it's higher level as the "Genuine Swinger" tag and at it's secondary level as "The Friends Network". On the friends network there has to be agreement between the two members to include be included on each others network.

Overall
Theadulthub operates a two tier "testimonal" system which allows for POSITIVE feedback - this does not need to be policed. No system allowing negative feedback can exist un monitored. Removal of negatives will render the system in-effective. At the end of the day, if you do not want to take a chance when meeting others, you need to keep to the "genuine" tagged members or those with a strong "friends network" as a sageguard. Whilst that will not ensure a successful meet and will mean that you miss out on meeting a lot of nice and genuine people , it is lot more than is available on most sites that are not part of this hub.

box

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there's also the issue of new users, e.g


New user signs up to site, has no feedback (positive or negative). Will anyone give himher the benefit of the doubt? Or go with someone who is already vetoed by someone else, a guaranteed genuine?

You would basically end up with a very small group of people who played together, and everyone else left by the wayside, with no way of getting any feedback, unless they fake it.

There are just far too many ways to abuse a system, and too little time to police such a thing.
ade1659

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lisa, i think you look great,but i dont qualify cos im a single bloke,well im not part of a swinging couple anyway
ade
leesax

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Ade,
Thanks for your message. You do count, you're just not what we are looking for at this moment in time. But I am sure you will meet up with someone soon!
Lisa

love2playwithu

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everyones idea of bad and good is different. some may think we are hot and others it just doent happen, its all in the chemistry.
So I think it would be unfair to rate couples or report to others good or bad as there is no guarentee it wasnt a one off good or bad experience.

PAUL40JO32

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It works well on ebay?

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Ebay is a bit different - you are buying and selling a tangible item. Did the buyer pay on time? Did the seller send in a reasonable time? Were the goods as described. There is no "opinion" just facts.

We are talking here about your opinion of another person or couple and also the chemistry on a given night - not tangible and subject to an individuals opinions and prejudices.

As already said - there is the two tier "positive" feedback on this system just no "negative" ones.

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in answer to leesax above...I am not being funny, but being as restricted as you are "wanting just a single bi female" is bound to limit your replies, there are just not many of them out there! if you would only be flexible enough to share your wife with a guy as part of a couple as proper swingers then you will meet loads of bi women (I am one for instance)

leesax

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I think every person has there limits and interests and our interest is not with other men at present. we are not looking to be 'proper swingers' as you put it as I have no interest in being sexual with another man. My choice not my husbands. But I am sure we are not the only couple whose interest is to explore the wifes bi side and nothing more.

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I know of another site that uses the feeback or verification system and it works great.

Also (free bit of advertising for me!) anyone couples or single ladies who are fed up with the timewasters around send me a message - promise you wont regret it.

Suffolkpunch

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Hi all,

I've read the attached thread and think that this would be a greet idea to provide feedback on users. Im NEW to the site and a bit unsure of who's really here for the right reasons. I've sent a few mails to people and have yet to have a reply.

Kind regards,

P.S - Any sexy ladies in the essexLondon area wanna break me in?

joseph1254

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I've thought of a way that you can tell who are time wasters that don't reply to messages sent to them & I'll write it in the forums
SiteAdminSally

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Hi Joseph

I would strongly advise you not to take this cause of action as it would result in you being deleted from the site.

What happens if you name and shame a member in public and they have been ill and not bothered to log as they are aware that they are unable to meet?

If you have any problems or concerns about a member on the site, then submit an enquiry to the admin team, after all this is why we are here.

To submit enquiries to the admin team click on the help button and then select the correct enquiry.

Remember to include as much information about the problem as you can, othrwise the admin team are unable to investigate fully and the correct course of action might not be able to be taken.

Thanks

Site admin

Jargon

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in answer to leesax above...I am not being funny, but being as restricted as you are "wanting just a single bi female" is bound to limit your replies, there are just not many of them out there! if you would only be flexible enough to share your wife with a guy as part of a couple as proper swingers then you will meet loads of bi women (I am one for instance)


Thought that was a bit personal, then read liasons profile LOL. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! We all have personal preferences and it's our choice.
As far as giving feedback on others, it would not work. The thing that bugs us most is that so many people are still registered users but never read their mail, so are they active? There should be a time rule, if you don't log in for 90 days you get struck off and have to re apply for membership.
Jose
joseph12

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I'm not talking about a person or persons I'm talking about the adult hub sites in general
suggsey

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Well as a newbie on this...and I mean this in all aspects......after what i have read to-night reading all the posts...and the replys it (and this is only my opioion) that if you want to meet with people YOU lay down the ground rules first why is this so hard....if want a meet ...tell the person..or persons....what YOU want....and of when they turn up and its not to YOUR likeing...then its up to to YOU to tell them to GO.......is this common SENCE or NOT......

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I couldn't agree more with this idea.

I don't know about everyone else but I feel that I have had more than my fair share of timewasters who don't show for meets, promise they will organise something and don't and more recently a trend for photo collectors who keep asking for more pictures then disappear!
prpeople

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yes feed back is a brilliant thing to have on this site. also instead of just having the genuine badge, we feel people should be able to see how many times you have been verified. we have met 9 couples from this site. so our profile should say verified genuine by 9 couples. that way people will know that it is more than 1 person verifing us. it is not hard to get someone to verify you a while ago a bloke on here used to verify people just cos he had chatted in the chat room to them lol. but the more people you meet the more stars or a better genuine rating should be in effect. we would welcome this and think most others would too. it is the same old same old fakes who spoil this site. we know lots and 1 in particular who always pms us in the chat room gets kicked out only to return to the room 3 seconds later which is quite frankly pathetic.
warmandfriendly

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One way to get started would be for admin to apply a 90 day rule. If a member does not log in for that period, they are deleted and have to rejoin if they want to.
Of course this wouldn't apply to premium members, but would surely get rid of some of those who don't use the site. There must be hundreds of people who joined and no longer bother to log in for whatever reason. I have sent a lot of mail that's never been opened and finally deleted it.
And to all you people out there, please click "No thanks" if you're not interested!!
I never do that, I always reply, even to the nutters.
Joanna