Why I’m So Passionate About Helping People Getting Into Kink and BDSM

7:11 pm Wednesday, 27^th January, 2021

I will never forget the day I entered the local kink community. I found out that there was a weekly kink meetup happening a few blocks from where I worked. For over a decade, I had been yearning to explore kink. There was this desire, this fire inside, that kept growing day-by-day.

This gathering I heard is where kinky people can hang out in regular settings, generally with food and socialize. I love this idea because it brings the kink community closer together. There’s nothing like making friends and creating great relationships with a community that strives to get to the same place: unapologetic acceptance and freedom of who they are.

I had also just got out of a really unhealthy long-term relationship. Can we say fresh start, anyone? I remembered telling myself that if I didn’t go, I’d regret it immensely. What I was feeling as I grabbed the door handle to the meetup—heart pounding, mind racing, sweating, anxious, worried, nervous.

“What if I wasn’t good enough to join? What if I’m not kinky enough? What if I’m TOO kinky for their liking? What if everything I dreamed and fantasized about kink isn’t what reality is at all?”I almost turned around. But, I swallowed my inner gremlin and walked in. Looking back now, little did I know that decision I made to go coupled with the action to enter the scene set my life on a course that would transform my way of life for the better in every way.

I felt like I had found my chosen family. I always felt like the odd one out my entire life. Ever since that day I walked into the kink meetup, I’m finally living the life that I was meant to. The love, acceptance, and freedom I surrounded myself with trickled into my life, helping me thrive unapologetically and confidently as exactly me. I didn’t realize I had so much shame, cultural expectations, societal expectations, and stigma to shed. No wonder I couldn’t fly and thrive…I was weighed down underneath all those layers.

What does this mean for you? It means that you must go out and do your own thing. Do the things that make you happy, even if it’s not kink-related. Okay, if you need a little nudge: I give you full permission to go out and explore what makes you happy, kinky or not. Life is to short to hide behind what-if’s and maybe’s.

You want to know the best part about all of this? The transformation I felt from the permission I gave myself to explore kink and BDSM has positively affected other areas of my life, too: my career, my ability to communicate, and my romantic and platonic relationships to name a few. The joy I feel from the freedom and acceptance to show up exactly as I am thanks to BDSM has helped shape me to be the person I am today. People ask me all the time why I’m so passionate about helping people explore kink and BDSM. This is my way!!!!

Love to all. Peace and KINK to ALL!!

Comments

Littleladylove	9:31 am Saturday, 30^th January, 2021 Morning , love your story 🌻💫⭐️☀️
jennr80	1:45 pm Sunday, 31^st January, 2021 Love this! When I found the kink community I felt much the same! I haven’t been able to meet anyone in my area since my master passed away I have not been with anyone even just as friends that is in the life style. He passed a few years ago and I feel empty like something is missing and I think it’s the community that I was part of before. We shall see if I can find any one local enough lol
tonigur1	12:43 am Monday, 1^st February, 2021 id much like to meet people of similar interests. im ready to toss off the layers that have been holding me back
Lmat123	2:18 am Tuesday, 2^nd February, 2021 Love this thank you
allyjack847	4:24 pm Wednesday, 3^rd February, 2021 Thanks for this much sppre
Daddisavage502	4:26 pm Wednesday, 3^rd February, 2021 Where else can you find an abundance of gorgeous sluts begging to be punished and degraded like the filthy nasty sluts they truly are..........with their deep wet throats and tight wet holes begging to be pounded and had
tac754jfezs	6:27 pm Wednesday, 3^rd February, 2021 I really like the way he shared. He's had a good experience. Maybe one day I will have an experience like that.
genevil813	6:29 pm Wednesday, 3^rd February, 2021 hey
steelernatio344	12:05 am Thursday, 4^th February, 2021 That sounded great and would like to be part if this community as well and have great friends who are like minded. Lou
zir294	2:43 pm Sunday, 7^th February, 2021 Thank you i am going on my first meeting tomorrow night. I have a similar story. Ready to be my true self. So you have encouraged me to go forward. I will have to let you know how it goes.
lauraallem550	4:12 pm Thursday, 25^th February, 2021 I want to go to meeting where do I find 1
NikkiwantsToBeUsed69	9:52 pm Saturday, 27^th March, 2021 How do I find meeting's im a single mom looking for excitement
Sindeesmith	7:58 pm Sunday, 25^th April, 2021 Thank you for for your story , and thank you for choosing to help those that can't find , or are afraid to participate in our community . It is important that those that have a place in the community mentor those who might be lost or starting out.
kaseylov172	2:47 pm Monday, 10^th May, 2021 👄🤞😈I’m very intrigued by you
dul548	5:02 pm Tuesday, 25^th May, 2021 So where do I go? 😛
transkittenstepha993	11:31 pm Tuesday, 27^th July, 2021 I am so jealous Dr hands ease show me the way.
shyandsa222	3:45 am Thursday, 29^th July, 2021 This is all wonderful , and I'm not sure about the " munches " in my area , but the closest local play club was in Ohio I filled out the app and they said it was full and could not join , so disappointed again , not sure who or where to turn ...apologies for listening ...Rn
hic858	7:51 pm Thursday, 29^th July, 2021 👍👍👍
FEMDOMINANT	6:55 pm Friday, 6^th August, 2021 😘 I've "ALWAYS" been BossyControlling but even more so now. I'm able to express the Dominance in online Second Life game. In there, I'm able to meet Submissive men all around the world but most are Married. Hopefully, my avatar Amina Wetherby will connect with someone there within the BDSM community. Thanks for bringing such a story to the forefront.
petersone455Sarasota	10:39 pm Saturday, 7^th August, 2021 Help me I need new Owner
NewbieFireFreakz2	12:36 am Friday, 20^th August, 2021 I would love to find like minded people hear in Champaign Illinois.
Valentinec736	7:15 am Sunday, 22^nd August, 2021 Sweetie, our sexuality cannot DEFINE us, n'est ce pas? I am another one. My preferences are clear and founded but Im looking for a whole person. Kink, as you refer to it, is something I thought was original to me. I haven't had many men. Lots of women. From a very early age.. Im ridiculously sensitive and most men have been conditioned to gnaw, grind, bang and chew.. I could never tolerate this so.. Men don't like directions.. I am of the 'to the manor born' and of great genetics. I never had to ask for anything. It was served to me. I lust to be tied and made to beg. That would require a gentle but firm touch. I have a secret..
billbeauch711	10:43 pm Saturday, 28^th August, 2021 thank you
Amy2Spirit	3:06 pm Tuesday, 31^st August, 2021 Beautifully said. My experience is similar. Thank you for sharing. You have helped many.
msrachelmv621	8:37 pm Tuesday, 31^st August, 2021 I am curious but unsure of all of it. I do not want to be abused, as. A woman but I do enjoy Dirty talk, and mild rough sex. I understand my place with a Man, as a Woman and I love being a Woman, so much, i relish it! 💕
Kinkybrat6018	9:27 pm Tuesday, 31^st August, 2021 I have just started that journey myself. I stayed in the car fighting an inner battle and like you I almost turned around and left. Too early for me to appreciate the results yet, but I am proud of myself for having had the courage to step out of my comfort zone and search fir my freedom and happiness.
Sexymissyflavine	1:39 am Tuesday, 7^th September, 2021 Nicely said, thank you for sharing your experience
howyours255	8:33 am Wednesday, 8^th September, 2021 I need to do that, I hate the shyness or nerve aspect that's keeping people fearful of ridicule or rejection
mailasr256	3:58 pm Thursday, 16^th September, 2021 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈
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Baymatt	7:43 am Saturday, 25^th September, 2021 Great story about breaking out and finding self and special friends 😃
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joelcochr998	3:58 pm Saturday, 25^th September, 2021 Help me
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Angel21Sacramento	12:02 pm Saturday, 9^th October, 2021 Very well said . Love your passion for the lifestyle . I myself have never felt comfortable as a woman fo go alone to a lifestyle function . I have explored over the last decade . Its felt more normal to me then dating in a vanilla way . It does help you grow in other areas of your life I whole l heartedly agree . It opened up a whole new world for me. Thank you for sharing your passion . I wish it was easier to find partners in this lifestyle that matched up easier . Truly want the basis of what this lifestyle is . Really enjoyed reading what you wrote .
semiglos251	7:49 am Tuesday, 12^th October, 2021 Oh I have to agree with all said. Itt's not easy being trans and trying to find like minded people. I'm not sure this is the place, but maybe it's a start.
cufa014	3:45 am Saturday, 23^rd October, 2021 I'm a Tampa native, born literally in hospital that was eventually in shadow of the old Sombrero...miss how much more open minded and sexually adventurous people are there
chadtuc093FondDuLac	11:26 pm Thursday, 11^th November, 2021 Help me
jsol417	3:46 am Tuesday, 7^th December, 2021 Interesting article! I never thought about doing with opening mind and growing from there!
AmberAsh222	10:00 pm Friday, 10^th December, 2021 Where do I sign?
cannon316	6:25 pm Wednesday, 5^th January, 2022 I'd love to get with you
rickskins203	6:03 am Monday, 10^th January, 2022 Great advice cause this is new to me but have always had the urges ready to expand my sex life what is easiest way
rodneyreyno166	12:55 am Tuesday, 11^th January, 2022 Would you show me how to be good slut
rodneyreyno166	12:55 am Tuesday, 11^th January, 2022 😍
sschoo028	3:15 pm Monday, 17^th January, 2022 Where can I find a kink meet up around prairieville, la
JayneCastltn	7:38 pm Tuesday, 25^th January, 2022 I myself, have thought long and hard about taking that first step and opening the door. The uncertainty of whether you're too vanilla is my worry. Thanks for the motivational perspective.