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8:33 pm Sunday, 8^th May, 2022

So here's the situation:

My husband and I have a strong, secure, confident relationship. While we have only just recently been married, we've been together for over 5 years now. All 5 of those years have been spent with a mutual interest in (and exposure to) the lifestyle. In fact, neither my husband nor I have ever been in a traditional, monogamous relationship. We were both introduced to swinging and ethical non monogamy individually (separate from one another) early on in our early adult lives and have decided that it was right for both of us ever since (lucky us - as we ended up together). We've both been to our local lifestyle clubs many times and have enjoyed the few, spontaneous encounters we've had there, as well as the few planned meet-ups we've enjoyed through this platform.

Acknowledging the above, and despite the many years of exposure we've had (and a very much established fact that it is indeed what we both want) we still have a disproportionate amount of trouble getting the nerve to get up and approach someone we are interested in, or respond in a way that is not willingly naïve when people show interest in us. During a night out at the club, we often end up just playing with each other and enjoying our own little display of exhibitionism for anyone who wants to watch. Don't get me wrong - we LOVE that... but we have discussed this numerous times and both agreed we wish we'd had the nerve to introduce ourselves to potential playmates, or simply make eye contact to convey we are open to approach.

Does anyone else have this issue?

Has anyone had this issue and then found ways to push yourself out of awkward sense of shyness?

We drive ourselves a little mad with it lol.

Thanks in advanced for your responses ♥️

Comments

guru69blr	8:32 am Monday, 9^th May, 2022 thats nice to hear from u
coolstreams	10:46 am Monday, 9^th May, 2022 Interesting....wish we could meet up.
sugarrrdaddyyy	11:02 am Monday, 9^th May, 2022 me and my gf lets plan it... it will be amazing fun. anjali is also excited for it
libertin376	1:19 pm Monday, 9^th May, 2022 I guess booz helps in lowering some of that inhibition. Just for the first few times atleast. That or whatever else that works for you guys. Haha
littledimple01	4:16 pm Monday, 9^th May, 2022 well to be honest there is no issue at all, just lots of trust, love, respect and a happy marriage. It would be ackward for anyone to approach directly. Lucky you two found each other, keep having fun
doublen695	12:09 pm Wednesday, 11^th May, 2022 Very Well written
safedroshan	6:18 am Thursday, 12^th May, 2022 Firstly kudos to you for your journey. It's amazing and rare to find such partners that ease up your lives going forward. I hard relate to the awkwardness yes. I have had the chance of meeting a couple from the lifestyle in a Bangalore club but it was very organic. And we couldn't realise when one thing led to other. Of course a little tipsy nature helped for sure. I think the little trouble of getting charged up and approaching here is mostly due to the environment, culture here. It's subconsciously ingrained in our minds and we are engrossed with a lot of "what ifs". I mean had that been a club in Amsterdam i am sure you would just take a chance even if it's more scary and risky (may be). So yeah i mean i guess the best way to know is to take a leap of faith of course while you have established that you are exhibiting something and are open. Small gestures and straightaway asking also helps. Either they do or they don't. That's my two cents.
rajvandycpl	4:47 am Saturday, 14^th May, 2022 That's right and very obvious to have such tendencies. We are humans and inspite of quantum of a good ingredient called Lust inside us we still ought to behave like normal humans. This is normal and do enjoy this every time you break a shell and meet someone... Lust matters ..it's important
irfanmo350Doha	6:35 am Saturday, 14^th May, 2022 yes its common.. the best advice is to dont stay together in clubs.. try to move around often so that you are easily approachable by others. when you like someone take a deep breath and just give him an eye contact and smile
pnsps647	2:53 pm Saturday, 14^th May, 2022 So well articulated. This completely resonates with us too. While - we are fairly new and are no way in even a league that you belong in....but those trepidations and butterflies in the stomach gets to us too. The way we are...for us the final outcome is not sacrosanct, rather the journey, mutual excitement (with another couple), the pushing of boundaries (even fully clothed) and taking the mind to wonderful situations is so much rewarding. True - it has been hard for us to find couples who would want to take those small steps with us (most want to get in to bed immediately)....but hey, as long as there is hope, there will be scope! Cheers..
itech331	3:50 am Sunday, 15^th May, 2022 Awesome 👍🏽
finixindiapvt	7:06 am Sunday, 15^th May, 2022 Wonderful expression
Rohan543	5:18 pm Sunday, 15^th May, 2022 Hey let's get in touch
nandaniviraaj	12:18 pm Wednesday, 18^th May, 2022 we should meet up
nandaniviraaj	12:18 pm Wednesday, 18^th May, 2022 we are from kolkata
mohit4kolkata	11:52 am Friday, 20^th May, 2022 Hey guys lets catchup
Aki09	8:00 pm Friday, 20^th May, 2022 Hey Guys, I have met many couples and even i feel kind of awkward to approach someone. Frankly speaking i feel it is very common and lot of people over here have gone through same. I don't know why but it happens, for instance few year back i was at club in Pune and i was constantly looking towards a girl giving her hint and even i felt she was also looking at me but when are eyes crossed each other i felt kind of awkward and shyness. But with time this things vanish away because you come to know how to play and you are confident enough that you can identify right people
loveisv348	2:25 am Monday, 23^rd May, 2022 I am drive
Sukhrsw428	12:46 pm Monday, 23^rd May, 2022 Its a very sincere and mature question to ask .
37brianmillsAndheri	7:51 pm Monday, 23^rd May, 2022 Well for one I'd normally try to initiate a normal conversation and see how things develop from there .
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shaktimachi949	3:06 pm Thursday, 4^th August, 2022 wish we could meet
kolmatureguy	8:23 am Tuesday, 30^th August, 2022 perfect couple with a perfect choice ! kudos guys ! would it be ok with you if I request to connect with you ? please do lemme know. thanks
kamleshku353	9:55 am Saturday, 22^nd October, 2022 Hi
carnaldesires69	5:58 pm Saturday, 10^th December, 2022 Thank you so much guys💤😊💕
carnaldesires69	5:58 pm Saturday, 10^th December, 2022 Thank you so much guys💤😊💕
lickgspecialist	1:43 pm Tuesday, 27^th December, 2022 It's interesting read . I feel you should shed your inhibitions and introduce yourself. Take one step at a time All the best. Happy hunting.
Versatile41	6:57 pm Sunday, 12^th March, 2023 I would start with trying to build a rapport and during conversations, calibrate if the other person would be ok to be approached. Hope this helps!

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