Going Acoustic: Fingering and Muffing
9:14 am Thursday, 31st October, 2024
Overwhelmed with the toy options out there? 🍆 Dildos, balldos, vibrators, pinwheels, autoblows… It’s a confusing world! 🤯
As much fun as toys can be for your sex life, sometimes the best tools are right there in your hands already. 👐 Today, we’re talking all about finger action that will have your head spinning. 😵💫👇
Anal fingering 🍑
Preparation 🧼
We want everything to be smooth and safe down there, so keep your fingernails short and wash your hands before getting down and (not so) dirty. 😆
Things might get WET, so it’s a good idea to lay a towel down, too. 💦💦💦
For some of us, a shower and some careful diet planning is enough to feel shiny and ready to go. For others, you might wanna clean your ass more thoroughly, which you can read all about in our comprehensive anal prep guide. 🍑
Our golden rule: you can never have too much lube. 💧 Water-based lube is your go-to all-rounder for anal fingering.
Techniques ☝️
Your fingers are hella sensitive, so they’re the perfect instrument for getting to know your body inside and out. To warm up, the area between your genitals and your anal opening (sometimes called the ‘taint’ or the ‘perineum’) is an under-appreciated hotbed of pleasure. Playing with hands is the perfect opportunity to explore every corner of your potential erogenous zones. 🔥
💡 Foreplay Tip: Get your playmate in the mood with an erotic massage. Work your hands all over their trembling body, getting closer and closer to the winning spot until they’re trembling under your touch. 😩 Some massage oils work as lube too, but always check the label! 🧴
Start slowly – no one wants a tear, and building up stimulation encourages blood flow to your genitals and increases your arousal. 🩸🥵 Glide in with one finger first, then add a second (remembering to lube up! 💧) if you feel that pussy loosening up. 😍
Respond to what your playmate is giving you – when you find a spot that makes them quiver, amp up the erotic pressure. ⚡ If they go quiet, you can try other speeds or motions, like spinning your finger around inside to stimulate their walls. 😏 You always wanna be in tune with your playmate’s body language, especially when fingering. Follow those moans of pleasure all the way to splash mountain! 💦🤤
For more details, our guide to all things fingering is here.
Muffing 😩
What is muffing? 😏
Ever wanted to get fingered in the front, but thought you didn’t have the right genitals? 😭 Well, think again! 😲
It’s called ‘muffing’, and it involves fingering the inguinal canals – that is, the gaps where the balls descended from. Yes, really! 🤯 Those who’ve tried ‘tucking’ (a technique to create a smooth crotch) will be familiar with the spot, because that’s where the balls go when you tuck.
Muffing might appeal to you for a variety of reasons. First off, it’s a way to explore a new pleasurable sensation, and that’s always eye-opening. 😍 For crossdressers and trans femmes particularly, getting fingered in the front can be really gender-affirming – and isn’t sex all about feeling great in your own body? 🤤
Trying it out 😋
We recommend experimenting with muffing first by yourself, because it’s a very delicate area of your body. ✨ This way, when the time comes when you wanna play together, you can guide your sexual partner to where feels good for you. 👅
If you wanna muff someone else, bring it up gently and guide them to a resource where they can learn about it (like this one! 😉) so they know what they’re getting into. 🫦
Finding your inguinal canals is easier from below. Making sure your hands are clean and nails well-trimmed, lie on your back and place your fingers on your taint. Gather the loose skin from your scrotum to cover your index finger, and glide it up along one side of the very bottom of the base of your cock. Pointing up towards you, you’ll feel a small cavity no bigger than your fingertip. This is the money spot – and there’s one on the other side too! 🤯
Your inguinal canals are covered with skin, so there’s no ‘orifice’, so to speak, which means that most people don’t want or need lube here. Just press your fingertip very lightly into the cavity and you’ll feel that sensation of fullness we get from fingering. 😩
We always suggest going slow with sex acts that are new to you, and muffing is no exception. Once you’re in, you might feel an inner ring about an inch up. You can stroke this ring if it feels good, but don’t push through it or you can cause injury. 🙅
Muffing might feel bizarre at first because you’re stimulating new nerve groups. 🤪 You might feel squirmy at the unrecognizable sensation, and tiny movements have a major impact, so our advice bears repeating: take it super slowly.
💡 Muffing Technique: Insert your finger into them, and position them so you they thrust into it. They’ll get the feeling of being slammed into, even though the movements inside will stay gentle. 🫦
For a more detailed guide to muffing, we recommend Mira Bellwether’s zine Fucking Trans Women – a great resource for girls like us. 😜
For some of us, hand stuff is what we do during foreplay, while for others, it brings us all the way to orgasm. Aren’t our bodies just mind-blowing? 🤯
Have you tried fingering or muffing recently? Tell us all about it (in delicious detail) in the comments below… 🤤👇